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Celebrate the Laughter…Embrace the Memories

Posted by on Apr 29, 2013 |

“Sometimes we are only given a few minutes to be with the one we love and a thousand hours to spend just thinking of them”

Maya Angelou

 

Soon it will be that time of year, where thousands upon thousands will gather and celebrate that one special person who makes us smile, who taught us to laugh at the little things and embrace the impossible dream and make it a reality. Known by the simple name of Mom, Mother, Mama, Mommy ….she is the nurturer, Our care giver, Our holder of all secrets, and the hoarder of Love.  We will embrace the memories of our younger years spent worshiping their existence, and reliving the one single memory that above all else is ours alone.  If you are a single child, those memories will be yours alone, however, if like myself you have siblings…those memories will be shared, but you will still retain that one special memory that is yours and yours alone.  You will have a moment in time that is forever branded in your brain and heart…be it the early morning chats while getting ready for school, or the long car rides from home to work, be it the laughter in the car ride on that long road that never ended open route to the family vacation…or even the long drawn out criticisms over a choice made poorly..there will be memories.  Life is like that…there are memories for everything…but the memory of our parentage is one that holds strong.

Memories are the long road trips, talking about life plans, past boyfriends, memories of her youth compared to ours…the endless comparisons of privilege over what they themselves experienced.  The fears of what tomorrow may bring, and the joys of what today does offer…Mom shares them all.  From the simplest touch, to the briefest hug…Mothers offer it all.  They are proud when you succeed…and they are proud when you fail…because they hold on to that dream that you will one day be something, someone larger than she ever thought possible for you.  Mothers are the ones that offer up those unwanted comparisons…sometimes unaware that the psyche is cracking just a little…her goal is focused…she wants you to be all you can be…she wants you to be all she couldn’t be…she wants….

Mothers are memories that sometimes cause stress and anxiety…fears relived as we grow up and embrace the role ourselves.  So many times we say to ourselves…”When I grow up I am not going to be like…” but truth be told one day you will find yourself screaming out in frustration…”Oh my god I have become my mother!”…Some days there will be that moment when you smack your self and say “Whoa…back up a sec…remember your promise?”…and the current stress-or will be replaced with yet another tactic you learned from a friend or  online, or in a group…but nurturing nonetheless…and you will tackle the latest adventure with your child (ren) and hope that tomorrow this small person with eyes like their father, and a smirk like you had when you were that age will survive this thing called life, and aspire to be more than you ever thought possible, more than you embraced…because your faith is that large.  We do this with all the nuturing, angst, laughter, steam and steadfast belief in the child before us….just like Mom did with us.

This year, on Mothers Day, on this fifth year since my own mother passed, I will gather around the table with some of my children…and we will enjoy breakfast and tears as we relive some of the tales of my own misspent youth…the things taught, shared and laughed at with my own mom.  I am sure my sister will remember her her in her own right, as will my brother and my dad…Each of us with our own memory or take on life events, Each of us with our own challenges, each of us with our own regrets, accomplishments and Love…all bonded with one simple thread…the Love that my mother instilled in us.  I will embrace the day knowing that like her, there are regrets, things left unsaid, laughter that was shared, and a Love that encompassed all…good and bad.  I will look upward, and say my Blessings…and remember that although I celebrate her this day…I acknowledge her everyday in my Life, my Love, My Growth and my mistakes…she was the one who would laugh with me when I needed it, and encouraged me when I was down, she applauded me when I succeeded and embraced a dream to be bigger.  The thousand memories I take with me are not overshadowed by the loss of her to cancer, for she is forever with me.

So take a moment to laugh, to share…and remember that the road that leads you here today is because of a woman who never stopped sharing herself with you, your siblings, your family or a stranger. Nothing and no one can take that away.

 

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The Glory is in Not missing the little things….

Posted by on Apr 15, 2013 |

Today is a Glorious day!

The Sun is shining, the and windows are open…I am taking a break from the cupcake dedication of this past weekend…and I am catching up on some down time.  Well OK, admittedly, I have done the windows, changed around the kitchen, swept the floors and washed them…but trust me, that is downtime for me!  I have spent a lovely time catching up with some great friends all across Canada on a site I visit daily…and like moms and step-moms alike, we will  share little tidbits of life we have learned.   I never fail to walk away more educated than when I began, and I am grateful for the solace it provides me in times of duress or drama. I live in a house of girls…there is a lot of drama !

Today we discussed convenience, we shared…and I shared that when we moved recently I did away with the microwave…and I don’t miss it.  That one little thing that offers a promise of convenience…seriously is not missed.  I do not miss having to wipe it down, clean off sticky finger prints, the incessant beeping when a child ‘forgets’ her bowl in it…I do not miss the smells, the wiping down yet again because someone forgot to… because the truth is, I rarely used it!  I reheated frozen vegetables and melted butter…Seriously…that is all I used it for!  The children occasionally convinced me to buy microwave popcorn…but I didn’t cook in it…I didn’t use it for meat (no one has explained to me why it turns it grey!) , I didn’t bake in it…so I don’t need it.  I don’t miss it…

I don’t miss the convenience because truth be told it wasn’t a convenience to me…it was a marketing ploy I was sucked into years ago with my ex husband.  I remember the 400.00 version we so proudly displayed…then the one we bought because it has convection capabilities (long before I understood the benefits of convection cooking  LOL…thank you for the science lesson Dougal), then there was the latest…a 10.00 stainless steel treat that someone bought for their mother for mothers day but sadly she passed…I was in the right spot at the right time!  It was pretty, but it played large into my obsessive desire to erase the fingerprints…lol.  OCD at its finest.

What I would have missed completely is the fine art of standing at a stove with my daughters, cooking supper…sharing in the responsibility of dicing, tearing, browning, sauteing, and boiling …all skills acquired in the kitchen years ago with my mom and grandma…skills I can gloriously pass onto my children because while here they will not have the convenience of opening a can and reheating a chemically enhanced meal of epic proportions ..that proves to be neither filling or flavourful.  While standing at the stove, we regale in tales of ‘cajun’ veggies (OK yes, I looked away too long)…I will have missed the look on one daughters face as she realizes exactly what is in a sausage interior…lol…and I will have missed the reminder to wash your hands, wipe the counters, rinse, repeat….lol.  I will have missed my granddaughter standing on the stool,watching water boil…amazed at the bubbles as they speed up and “pop’.  Gratefully her Aunt took over the role of Bill Nye Science guy and explained it to her…The kitchen is the one room in our home where everyone congregates and leaves knowing they are loved.  Tummies filled, laughter  a plenty and a sweet treat to be had.

The Glory is truly in not missing the little things.

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Embracing the Feelings

Posted by on Apr 5, 2013 |

I read this one day online, and was moved by the reality of it all.  Today, I would like to share it with you, and my apologies for not being able to credit the person who speaks with such clarity and wisdom.

 

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others……, including Love.
One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. He wanted to preserve the island until the last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave. He began looking for someone to ask for help.

Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat.

Love asked, “Richness, Can I come with you on your boat?”
Richness answered, “I’m sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you.”

Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was passing in a beautiful vessel.

Love cried out, “Vanity, help me please.” “I can’t help you”, Vanity said, “You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat.”

Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, “Sadness, please let me go with you.” Sadness answered, “Love, I’m sorry, but, I just need to be alone now.”

Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, ” Happiness, please take me with you.” But happiness was so overjoyed that he didn’t hear Love calling to him.

Love began to cry. Then, he heard a voice say, “Come Love, I will take you with me.” It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he forgot to ask the elder her name. When they arrived on land the elder went on her way.

Love realized how much he owed the elder. Love then found Knowledge and asked, “Who was it that helped me?”
“It was Time”, Knowledge answered.

“But why did Time help me when no one else would?”, Love asked.

Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, “Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is.”

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